Many have gotten into trusting the Lord to remove emotional pains in recent times. Many testimonies have resulted from this practice and have spread around the world. Various healings from diagnosed PTSD, quick healing from the emotional damage caused by molestation at a young age, as well as healing of more mild problems have been widely reported.
This approach of trusting Jesus to take away sins and hurts from the heart is something I’ve used often and found to be very effective in my own life and ministry over the years. Ultimately, this is just the practical application of the gospel. Jesus died to take away our sins and to bear our griefs and sorrows, so he can and will instantly and miraculously lift these things out of our hearts if we trust him to. Still, not everybody’s attempt at this has been successful.
This is a breakthrough in what some have called “memory healing,” where people have used various approaches to bring healing to emotions by revisiting painful memories and inviting the Lord to meet the person there (in different ways) to bring healing. This more simple and much faster approach of letting the Lord immediately remove the pains, in my opinion, is much better than the old-school methods popularized in past decades (digging up the lies believed, etc.).
On the other hand, people have often told me that they’ve found mixed results in praying for the Lord to remove emotional pains. Some people report immediate relief of all the pain they are praying over, while others report only partial relief, and still others report no relief whatsoever. Many people say that they’ve gotten full relief from some issues, partial relief from others, and no relief from the rest. I’ve heard that story over and over. So, does Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross only work sometimes? Does it only do the job halfway? No. Something is missing in these folks’ understanding/application. This is why such mixed results are usually reported.
I’m here to tell you that you can find a much higher success rate at this: 100% removal of all pains prayed over close to 100% of the time if you learn a few “intermediate-level” fixes. There will always be those who are dealing with some unusual problem, and you will need a new revelation to get them healed. I’ve run into a few of those among many cases, but the info I’m going to share has been proven to get the job completely done in by far the majority of instances. I’m going to share the common hangups experienced in this kind of emotional healing, and the fixes I’ve found to resolve them the vast majority of the time.
I did just say that you can get the vast majority of people’s painful memories healed without listening to God’s voice at all. I know some people don’t like that, but why make healing unnecessarily difficult? Why turn the blessing of the Lord’s guidance into a bondage it was never intended to be? Do you think it’s sinful to brush your teeth in the morning without asking the Lord for detailed instructions first? Then why are you upset that he heals people as consistently and easily as you brush your teeth?
Some have trouble with this because they are just skeptical, and it’s hard to be successful at a faith based prayer when you’re full of doubts. It also becomes easy to immediately give up over the slightest roadblock. They may need someone more convinced to walk them through things. On the other hand, I’m talking about strong believers who are usually reporting very mixed results. There must be a need for more wisdom. There must be a more effective application than what people are typically doing.
What I’m sharing here shouldn’t be taken to be all that people need for healing in every area. Right now I’m only talking about resolving emotional pains through memory healing. Of course there are other areas people need healing and freedom in, but I’m sharing this because it is something which folks on the internet, with no special skills or training or high spiritual development, can just pick up right off the page as written and then use to see many people healed from many emotional issues.
In the past, I’ve talked about healing fractured parts here, and I’ve warned not to mix that with re-visiting newly discovered (repressed) memories of those fractured parts. (Yeah, don’t do that, or people will totally relive their traumas emotionally and physically.)
There is some overlap between these two subjects though. When doing standard emotional healing through memory work, you can heal many people’s memories by revisiting them and handing over painful emotions even when those memories and emotions are found in fractured parts. In these cases, you can walk through the entire healing just as if there were no fractured parts, without ever needing to be aware that such a thing exists.
Whether that works or not seems to depend on whether the parts are cooperative with you accessing and healing their memories, and/or whether the spiritual strongholds around the parts allow them to cooperate. (You can use your authority in Christ to nullify that second factor.) This is very different than working with the parts intentionally to discover hidden memories, and then re-visiting those to bring healing, as some counselors do. (Again, don’t do that.)
Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s talk about making your memory healing more effective. I’m going to start by assuming that you’re already on board with trusting the Lord to instantly and miraculously remove emotional pains from memories.
Roadblock #1, removing fruit rather than the root:
One common mistake is not tracing a pain back to it’s earliest root. If you don’t uproot an emotional pain where it was first “planted,” the issue will not fully resolve. For instance, one may be aware of feeling anger and hopelessness towards their spouse, and if they trust the Lord to remove those emotions, some may leave while a portion remain.
A common reason for a portion of the pain remaining is that the current situation is only an emotional echo, a trigger of an earlier wound. This person may be able to trace their anger and hopelessness back to a previous relationship, and may even be able to see a pattern or theme of the same kind of anger and hopelessness being experienced throughout their life history of relationships.
This person’s anger and hopelessness towards their spouse may only be an “echo” of a painful experience at a very early age, where they developed the same kind of anger and hopelessness towards a parent or other relative, for instance. Now, they are interpreting all current relationships through that lens. This happens below the level of consciousness and happens whether the person chooses it or not until they get the original wound healed.
I don’t just assume that somebody’s current pain goes back to a wound with their parents or to any certain age, but I have learned a reliable way to find out where it does come from. I tell people to relax, to “turn their thinker off,” and just feel their painful emotions, then drift back through those feelings (not through their logic) to the first time they felt exactly that way. I’ve found that people’s emotions will consistently take them to the authentic root of the pain. If they try to figure out where the pain comes from using their logic they will often be wrong.
People typically drift back through their negative emotion, through a series of life events one after another, backward into their younger years, until they finally settle on one memory at a certain time, or possibly on a theme of memories over a span of time. The person will feel that they have finally settled on one or the other. They could go back to earlier adulthood, to teenage years, to early childhood, anything. I’m just looking for where they settle. It could only be the current situation causing the pain. There could be no earlier root, but it didn’t hurt to check, did it?
Those new to this approach tend to have two main problems:
They will over-think rather than spontaneously feeling their emotions, and will often go on and on about all their theories of where they think their problems come from. The weakness with this is that their logical brain usually doesn’t know, but their heart does.
The second common problem is that people will assume the first memory they drift back to is the root when they actually need to continue drifting back farther. This is the logical mind taking over as soon as it sees an earlier situation which would make sense as being the root. Nope, keep going until you can’t go any farther back. I typically look for an original wound before the age of 10, when the psyche was most impressionable and vulnerable and when most pains leading to lifelong emotional struggles were implanted for most people. If the person tells me they settled at an age later age than 10, I’ll have them check if they can go back farther, just to be sure.
You could ask God to show you the root, which can work, but I’ve found that to get very squirrely for some people when dealing with their deep hurts. Many folks have defense mechanisms keeping them away from awareness of their real issues and will decide God is telling them to do something else, or that he is saying they don’t have any issues, or absolutely anything to avoid dealing with reality. I’m not saying everyone does this, but it can be an issue, especially for those who feel they should only tune into visions or guidance rather than their hearts. (What are they afraid of in their hearts?) I’d rather get the “hyper-spiritual” folks authentically in touch with their emotions for the sake of avoiding any spiritualized denial.
The only time I find it best to rely on revelation for this is when the issue is rooted in the womb or early infancy, where the person has no natural memory, or even when the issue goes back to pre-conception (in heaven or on the way to the forming body). Those are situations where you will need to pray over what the Lord shows you, rather than what your natural emotions are able to get in touch with. You may recognize the need for that by discernment, or when all else seems to fail.
Roadblock #2, not removing unforgiveness first:
Another reason many painful emotions fail to get removed when handed over to the Lord, is that some form of anger or resentment (revengeful emotions) are associated with them. For instance, if you are trying to get healed from rejection in a memory, but you are holding onto vengeful emotions towards the one who rejected you, the feelings of rejection will often remain in place until you get that anger removed. In the parable of the two debtors, Jesus said that if we don’t forgive others we get placed in prison and handed over to tormentors. This is literally how the spiritual realm works. You get locked into emotional torment when holding onto anger.
The good news is that we don’t need to forgive in our own strength, but we can trust the Lord to remove all the revengeful emotions based on his promise that he is “the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world.” I’ve found it effective to confess (holding onto) the revengeful emotions as sin, to genuinely renounce them (say you don’t want them anymore), and then to believe his promise that he will literally take them away. I’ve found it important to be genuine on those three points, not to just say the words emptily for the sake of appeasing a counselor. After getting rid of the anger, many other emotional issues suddenly disappear on their own or become possible to remove next.
You can remove the anger and other emotions at the same time, but the problem so many have is that deep anger tends to be self-justified at the heart level. The person must genuinely, from the heart, recognize it as sin and want it gone. If the right words are said but the intention of the heart is still to justify and/or to stay angry, I’ve found that it just doesn’t get removed. This is why anger often needs to be focused on, processed in the heart a bit, and prayed over first.
All of this applies to anger against God as well as anger against other people just the same. It applies to anger against self as well, otherwise known as shame, which is the next roadblock.
Roadblock #3, not resolving shame first (not practically believing the gospel):
One of the people we need to forgive is ourselves. If we are holding onto shame in a memory, that means we are not believing the gospel in that area. If we don’t believe the gospel, we miss out on its benefits. It’s not too difficult to find freedom from shame, especially if you uncover the early root of it as explained above. First, repent for any wrongdoing on your part. Second, realize that Jesus paid for the sins of the entire world, all the sins of Hitler and all the child molesters and serial killers combined, and so yours are pretty small in comparison to that. Third, choose to receive his forgiveness. Fourth, forgive yourself based on his love and forgiveness. Finally, trust him to remove any shame. (As with anything else, sometimes you may need to command what spirits are holding it in place to go.)
I don’t find that people need to get free from all shame and anger whatsoever to get free from any individual painful emotion (that would be a pretty hopeless cause), but I find that they do often need to first get free from all the shame and anger found in the same memory, in the same emotional root, as the other emotional pains they are trying to get rid of.
Roadblock #4, giving up rather than plowing through demonic resistance:
I don’t like to give the enemy a platform by focusing on him unnecessarily, but there are times when he will be active in hindering this kind of healing. You will often need to use a command of authority in Christ to thwart demonic hindrances. You may need to do this before, during, and even at the end of a memory healing prayer session. When a person gets deep healing, the demonic often loses their foothold to that person, so they try to resist it however they can. They may cause the person irresistible distractions, may shut down their emotions, manifest out loud through their body and vocal cords, cause physical pain, put the person to sleep, manipulate fractured parts of the person or their guardian aspect of self (more on that another day) to interfere, etc. You can put a stop to any of this by a simple command of authority, unless you would rather give up when you see these hindrances, because the healing method “didn’t work.”
There aren’t any demons anywhere which any of us don’t have full authority to quickly and easily subdue, unless you believe there are. The only issues are whether you believe in the authority the Lord gave you (authority over all the power of the enemy) and whether there is a foothold in the person’s life allowing the enemy to remain. The Lord’s justice system won’t violate people’s will, so they need to come out of agreement with darkness to be fully freed from darkness. Still, even when people are giving the enemy ground, we can bind him up and restrain him from his activities in their life until we walk those people through removing the footholds. Then we can easily kick the critters out for good.
Usually, the enemy tries to work covertly, so it can help to know some of his schemes. He often silently works to hold a negative or vengeful emotion in place when a person is praying for the Lord to take it, and this can create an appearance that the prayer just isn’t working. This is probably the most common hindrance (of any kind) I run into by far, and you only need to command all spirits holding the anger and pain in place to leave. Easy. Now, what wasn’t working, suddenly works.
Another common tactic is shutting down access to the painful emotions. The person’s memories will suddenly become inaccessible, or they will go emotionally numb. The person won’t be able to focus, will feel a strong sense of anxiety (even terror) or of being overwhelmed at the thought of pursuing healing, will feel a need to blow up at you or to argue theology, etc. People often have no intention or natural control over these inner experiences. Don’t blame the one seeking healing. This tends to only be a spiritual attack. You often only need to command the spirits to be bound and restrained from causing these hindrances, and they will immediately stop. If the enemy is using a part of the person to cause these hindrances, you can command him to be bound and restrained from manipulating any part of the person in that way, and this will also stop such things immediately.
At rare times a fractured part is really deceived and is doing these things of their own free will, without needing to be under demonic control. I’ve found that we can also put a stop to this using our authority in Christ. Be gentle with the part, but use a declaration to put up a barrier in the spiritual realm that the rebellious part’s shenanigans won’t be able to get through.
Roadblock #5: when the issues are in uncooperative fractured parts, rather than in the main personality:
Sometimes you will need to switch over to ministering to fractured parts to get someone’s emotions healed. Oftentimes you will recognize this when a person can recall their memories but the emotions in them are numb. They often know they have pain or anger in there because it gets triggered sometimes, but they don’t have access to feel it at their own volition. They can only feel the pain and anger when their parts get triggered by a provocation.
Other times, people are so dissociated that they have no access to certain memories at all. At still other times, a person’s emotions in their fractured parts will not be numb, and you will be able to see partial relief of their painful emotions through re-visiting memories and handing the pains in them over to the Lord, but not full relief (because part of the pain is held by a fractured part who isn’t yet willing to hand it over themselves). In that case, you need to minister to the parts and get them to where they become willing.
For these people, you can know from the start that doing memory healing by itself is going to be inconsistent at best. This is the “hard” stuff, as compared to the “easy stuff” of doing memory work on the main personality. (Learning to heal most fractured parts isn’t one 30th as difficult as learning to read English though, and many children learn to read English.)
I’ve seen this approach fail when praying with New Agers who believed in the wrong Jesus (ascended master/new age guru Jesus who teaches all religions are the same, no such thing as sin, etc.).
Some go back to an emotional root and it is only a body memory, such as chest or gut tension/pain, etc. Or there may be an emotion without a memory. These may be very early, pre-verbal memories. You can hand them over to the cross just like anything else, even though you may not be able to define them or understand them.
I had one person who needed to break a covenant they had made with their body to retain anger against their spouse before the anger could leave.
Removing emotional issues has even involved the removal of disembodied human spirits inside the person before. Forgiving self and handing over shame led to a vision of these human spirits who were provoking it, and they were moved out. I’m not sure it was necessary to know all the details to get rid of them though.
These have been extremely rare situations. At these rare sorts of times, you just need to ask the Lord to show you what needs to be resolved.
A Review: Basic Steps for Emotional Healing/Memory Healing:
1) Feel the main emotion behind your issue, explore it and try to identify it in words (just to get a better handle on it).
2) Trace that emotion back to its source, not by trying to figure out its source intellectually, but by just feeling it and drifting back through the feeling to the earliest time of your life it goes back to. Continue drifting back until you settle somewhere. Your memories and emotions may settle on a single event at a specific time, or they may settle on a theme of a larger time frame, such as your whole childhood or a year/s.
3) When your emotions settle on an early memory or a theme of multiple memories, explore what emotions are there, trying to identify them. You may identify them with words such as “fear,” “powerless,” “invalidated,” “angry,” etc., or you may use a sentence or phrase to identify it, but the point is just to authentically explore them rather than dismissing them, and to try to get a grip on what is really there. The emotions in the early memory may feel more precise than the ones in the current situation or may branch out further.
4)Deal with any anger towards God or others first, because this can lock the other pains in place if not dealt with. From the heart: Confess holding onto the anger as sin, say you don’t want it anymore, and trust Jesus to take it from you as “the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world.” Command any spirits associated with the anger to go, and trust the Lord to take it all. Wait a few seconds to let him take it. Often, all other negative emotions will leave the memory along with the anger, but sometimes they will still remain.
5) Deal with any shame/guilt. This also holds other problems in place, because it is a matter of not believing the gospel in that area. Repent from any wrongdoing/sin. Receive the Lord’s forgiveness based on the fact that he paid for all the sins of the entire world, and that “God was in Christ, reconciling us to himself, not counting our trespasses against us.” Now, forgive yourself based on his love and forgiveness towards you. Finally, command all shame to go and all demonic associated with it.
6) Trust the Lord to remove any other negative emotions left over, since he “bore our griefs and carried our sorrows.” Command any spirits holding them in place to go, along with the negative emotions as necessary.
7) Check the memory to see if all negative emotions are gone, and deal with any that remain. Invite the Lord to meet you in the memory, to show you what he was doing, to speak to you there, whatever he wants to do.
(You may experience feelings of being overwhelmed or distracted, things hindering you from exploring memories and finding healing. You can often deal with this by commanding that all demonic manipulating any part of you to put up walls or to hinder healing be bound up and prohibited from doing that in the name of Jesus.)